Two Tears in a Bucket

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from an email: to my son 1998 09

Re: Movies

A line in Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil reminded me:
When I was in high school, a friend confided: “As my mother always says, …

‘If you’re going to be raped,
sit back and enjoy it.'”

It cracked me up. Years later, I actually heard my own mother say the line. But I was then an adult — she too was making a joke. No substitute though for my first time hearing that particular anomaly.

In Midnight, the “Lady Chablis” utters:

“My mother used to say:

Two tears in a bucket …
Mother-fuck it!”

Same anomaly. Gave me a perspective on it. The society approves parents teaching a Pollyanna version of reality to the children.
Schools and Churches teach different Pollyanna versions of reality to the same children.
Neither parents, schools, nor church are competent (or willing) to teach the harder realities. Sex is merely one example.
Hollywood is allowed varying lengths of leash to teach slightly more, it always being clear that a loose leash can be tightened.

Yet by the time we’re drafted or get married or become employed we’re supposed to have learned more. From the street (or from the random, as Gregory Bateson would say).

So, part A: “my mother used to say” sets up an expectation of Pollyanna which we will listen to with real or pretended reverence, everyone understanding that we’re in the stable of Bowdler out-of Polyanna.

“Two tears in a bucket”

An additional sub-part A and sub-part B.

“Two tears” … Wow, romantic, holy wisdom is coming. That’s sub-part A.

“Bucket” … Not urn, not vial … Germanic; not Romance. Gutteral. Rural; not urban. Laboring class; not aristocratic. Sub-part B.
But then, the Lady Chablis’ mother is a Black Mother. She’s “allowed” to be more “real.”

Part B: “mother-fuck it.” Black mother of a lying, disrespectful black drag queen.


The media, the courts, the government … They’re supposed to conduct business as though the three combined Pollyanna versions of reality were true and applicable.

When artists and media try to speak complete English, they loose sponsorship.
If the accused or a witness tries it in court, the judge has the wholly arbitrary concept of “contempt” to punish with.

When kids do it, they’re punished by whoever is at hand. This official “reality” isn’t anywhere defined. But you can see it clearly enough if you take a negative instead of a positive.


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Seems to me that some modicum of honesty is requisite to intelligence. If we look in the mirror and see not kleptocrats but Christians, we’re still in the same old trouble.
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